I was crying all night, not talking to anyone for a few days every time I got defeated in fights. But as I had more and more experience, I realised I learnt much more when I got defeated than when I won.
I found and realised a lot about what I had to fix when I got defeated, and easy to find what to focus on in training until next competition.
I would always find some technique and physical part to fix, but the biggest thing I learnt after being defeated was my mind. I felt like every time I got defeated, I was getting mentally tougher, I learnt more mind skills, and got wiser too.
Of course, winning competitions is the best way, and you should always try your hardest at training and your hardest at competition to win. You learn a lot from winning competitions too, also you get confident, but if you don’t be careful, you get an ego very easily from just winning only few fights, then your improvement will stop. That happened to me at one stage.
So, don’t stop learning from either winning or losing.
Don’t waste those experiences. The most important thing I’ve learnt from being defeated was to stand up and fight again, attaining the never giving up spirit.
If we keep running away because we are scared of being defeated or worry about failing, we can’t improve and we will achieve nothing. If you want to get better or achieve something great, you have to challenge someone better than you or challenge yourself with something hard. When your challenge is bigger, you will get better and you will have greater achievements.
Learning this kind of mindset from being a fighter is helping for my life a lot now